The DJ

“It’s not love for music, it’s a passion, and it goes beyond liking, and beyond a hobby, it’s about a way of living… Music is essential for my life.” – Armin Van Buuren

There's just something about a guy with passion... any passion. I attest that to the unexplained attraction to muscisians, artists, athletes. Part of the stereotypical attraction has to go with a guy that can really explain something with such a great passion and fever that makes the girl want to be the canvas he uses, the guitar in his hands, the mitt over his hand, or in my case the sound board under his fingers.

Stolen kisses require an accomplice

So I'm dating... which is always a bit odd for me. So when I'm fuzzy I do what every person my age does... Google It. Apparently its a popular subject... among men? So many pages dedicated to helping a guy navigate a single mom... I didn't realize we were so difficult?

The basics of the advice I found for potential suitors is: we're a bunch of controlling, straight-forward, spitfires, who may want you but don't really need you. Be patient, understand we're completely guarded, and if you give us time we may come around.

Which is true,well sort of. Its more about protecting ourselves and our kids. We're neurotic and blunt because we don't have time to do anything else. The articles themselves were quite amusing though... the image of some studly man googling tips on how to deal with his date.  

However the resources for single moms are quite limited. Ms. Single Mama has: Finding a Man Person. And Single Mom Seeking has 3 Mistakes to Avoid if You're Dating Again. There have been a few others, but mostly whisperings of what's worked in their current situation.

Maybe this will be mine

The Femme Fatale

Elizabeth Taylor [was] pre-feminist woman. This is the source of her continuing greatness and relevance. She wields the sexual power that feminism cannot explain and has tried to destroy. Through stars like Taylor, we sense the world-disordering impact of legendary women like Delilah, Salome, and Helen of Troy. Feminism has tried to dismiss the femme fatale as a misogynist libel, a hoary clich?. But the femme fatale expresses women's ancient and eternal control of the sexual realm. The specter of the femme fatale stalks all men's relations with women. -

Camille Anna Paglia

The "femme fatale" the pre-femenist, the woman that believes in dressing up and getting what she wants because she's a woman.The funny thing, is that I've found that these women, those of us open to dresses, heels, cleavage, cupcakes, and shameless flirting... We believe we need men least of all. We find them useful, convenient, even practical at times, but hardly necessary. We can do anything without them. They're always replaceable.

As you may have guessed I've been accused of being lots of things. However, I've never believed being self indulgent is a crime. If I paid for it, or accomplished it under my own means... then I'm not spoiled, I'm successful. My mentality has been changing, I'm refusing to allow myself to hide out again. I'm refusing to even consider being victimized by lonliness.

I will access every power I have, every shred of pride, and make my life what I want it to be.